9 Excellent Words to Strike From Your Vocabulary

Do you care if your friends to have fun on their vacation?

IF so, when they drive away, don’t say to them, I hope you have a good time. Instead, say HAVE a good time!

Using the word “hope” creates a margin of possibility that your friends might NOT have a great time. It’s the same with commenting to a friend, I hope you get the job or, hope you feel better soon. Hope implies that your good wishes might not happen.

Affirm to your friend, “Feel better!” Or, “I know you’ll get the perfect job at the right time.”

Words spoken to friends and to oneself carry strong energy and may have negative effects on mental well-being and positive outcomes. Here are eight more words to strike from your vocabulary now:

1. COULD.  Using the word could or could have implies lack: time, money, resources and opportunity. The word imprisons one in a remorseful past.

2. HAVE TO.  You don’t have to do or become anything. You either want to do it, or to become it, or not.

3. SHOULD.  Whether you feel you or somebody else should’ve done something differently, or did it wrong, you conger up  judgement, regret and/or blame.

4. WOULD.  The word would reeks of shallow excuses; I would ask her on a date, but she might turn me down. I would like to learn snowboarding, but I’m too old. I’d like to see Leonard Cohen in concert, but tickets are so pricey. When you eliminate would from your vocabulary, you’ll discover what you really want. Then, go for it.

5. TRY.  Try implies failure. If you tell yourself you’ll try to get out and walk more, there’s a big chance you will not. Don’t try, DO!

     Try is an important word to eliminate entirely from conversation.

6. OUGHT.  When you tell yourself you ought to do something, chances are the impulse is being driven by outer expectations such as trying to please mother, father, spouse or God. And when you do a good deed because you ought to, it blocks the wondrous experience of generosity! When you tell someone else they really ought to take action on something, it sounds controlling and bossy.

7. NO.  Have fun eliminating the word NO as much as possible by finding words to replace having to say NO. Becoming aware of how often NO is a response results in a vital awareness of all spoken words, and the power within them to weaken or strengthen self and others. 

8. HATE.  Hate is a powerful word and stressful on your physiology. If you don’t like eating okra, say there are other vegetables I prefer. Don’t remark that you hate stupid drivers on the freeway. Instead say, I don’t care for those idiots. Don’t hate anything – ever!

What words have you discovered that the use of may hold one back?



  1. how about the word ‘don’t’….and, can’t…?….and ….’but’…

    Heather I love your advise! your very good at getting people to think about their…. thoughts and words.

    • Heather says:

      Yes, Gail! I forgot about: Don’t, Can’t and Won’t. Thank you. Someone else mentioned “When.” Another person explained that the word “Hope” is a noun and it’s not meant to be used as a verb, as I HAVE hope, but not “I hope you….”

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