Look Into A Mirror and Say I Love YOU.

It feels awkward and scary at first to stand in front of a mirror for no other reason than to gaze into your own eyes.

Look closely into your mirror. You'll see someone quite amazing gazing back at you.

But because self-loathing creates such hindrance in the lives of many, I ask my coaching clients to explore this mirror gazing, positive self-talk exercise anyway.

I request of a client, “Stand up and go to the mirror on the wall over there.”

I always get the evil, you-gotta-be-kidding look directed at me!

I say, “Step up close to the mirror and look right into your eyes.” (Client looks, squirms and rearranges hair.)

I then suggest, “Relax your arms heavily at your sides…breathe…feel the warm spot in your chest, and gaze deeply into those exquisite eyes you see looking back at you.

I coach the client to talk to the eyes in the mirror and say such things as:

   You are incredible.

   You are intelligent.

   You are perfect just the way you are.

   You can do the things you think you cannot do.

   I love you!

Exactly which words I direct the client to say to his reflection varies depending on matters at hand, but the statements are always life-affirming, and all about self-acceptance and self-approval.

I’ve witnessed clients laugh, cry, struggle and heartily resist speaking to the face in the mirror as they repeat, “I love you just the way you are. You don’t have to change anything to please anyone else.”

To say I love you to one’s own self may be uncomfortable and difficult at first, but it gets easier and feels good.

The eyes exude power, as does the sound of one’s voice and the meaning of the words themselves. This combination sets up a formidable vibration which enlivens and frees one to move toward acceptance of his own wonderful self, maybe for the first time ever.

Will you do this self-empowering exercise in your mirror everyday, even for the few moments it takes to brush your teeth?


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